The Petite Desi Mama

"And though she be but little, she is fierce."

Category: Social Discussions

Compromise

  A common sentence accompanying a divorce is ‘She should have compromised’. In our culture, the blame, the onus almost always lies on a woman’s ‘inability to compromise’.⠀ ⠀ What is this ‘compromise’ these divorce seeking women are unable to achieve?⠀ ⠀ A woman who is abused verbally, emotionally or physically by her husband or…

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7 Small Hacks to Achieving Self-Care

  “Do things for yourself. In 30 years, nobody is going to remember your choices except you”.⠀ Fact.⠀ ⠀ It’s true how we adults, specially Women, put ourselves on the back burner when we become parents. It’s all about a better life for kids, giving them all the happiness in the world, adapting our aims/dreams…

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Urdu Medium

  “Your son will be at a disadvantage when he starts school given you talk to him in Urdu at home. He’ll struggle to keep up with his peers. ⠀ “Isi liey Hum tu apnay bachon se English mein hi baat kerte hain”⠀(That’s why we converse in English with our kids”) ⠀ This was 8-9…

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A wishful Solution to an age-old Desi problem

    For centuries, the relationship between a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law has been a tricky one. It’s literally the tangible form of the phrase “kabhi khushi kabhi gham” – with Gham dominating more often than not. In our sub-continent culture, this relationship gets even trickier due to the Rukhsati of the daughter-in-law to her…

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Align, not Hustle

  As much as I value education and knowledge, sometimes I do realise why the philosophers said what they said when they said: “Ignorance is bliss”! With the lives of modern-day humans dictated by timetables and structured schedules ever since they are toddlers, from the 9-12 nursery hours, the lunchtime, the nap time, the swim…

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Self-Love or Narcissism?

With Kareena Kapoor taking self-love to another level with her line “Mein Apni Favourite hun” (I am my favourite) to the more socially aware individuals of today embracing & highlighting the importance of self-love & not giving attention to what others say/think, there’s another spin-off of this trend on the rise, a result of not…

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It’s only life after all

  “As long as I do not take myself too seriously I should not be too badly off” – Prince Because it’s only life, after all 😊 Right? What happens when we start taking ourselves too seriously? It becomes all about looking good and doing it right rather than learning new things. The fear of…

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1947 Partition- Three generations later

  Once upon a time, there were two groups of people, same but different, coexisting for hundreds of years. They looked the same, spoke many but similar languages, wore almost the same clothes, had the same cuisine more or less but followed different schools of thought but then that wasn’t that big a deal. They…

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Beauty lies in Fake Perfection?

Looking into a distant future and imagining the kind of conversations our kids/grandkids might have: “My mum is still so pretty. I mean look at those Wispies that frame those beautiful eyes of hers and enhance the color of her contacts, those done to perfection shellac nails, those thick luscious hair extensions! And that face,…

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A Letter to the Loving Parents of Pakistani Betis

  Dear Ammis and Abbus of us Pakistani girls, First and foremost, we love you truly madly deeply! Thanks for giving us a loving childhood. Thanks for investing in our education. Thanks for driving us from one activity/tuition to the other so that we can ace our Intermediate/A levels exams and get into the best…

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